BDSM

From Kinktionary @ Social Kink

1 See Also
2 Definition
3 Safety Concerns
4 Terms
5 Toys
6 How To Links
7 Recommended Movies
8 References

[edit] Definition

Consensual explorations of power play and sensation.

[edit] Safety Concerns

Safety can be a major concern with the fetishes involved in this type of play. Often use of a safeword is implemented. The words “no” and “stop” are not used as safe words considering that they are normally part of a scene. A safe word would be something abnormal like “red light” or a random word chosen that is agreed upon before the session. In a scenario where the submissive is gagged or speaking is not allowed in a scenario, a non-verbal signal is used instead of a safe word. In some situations, a submissive may have full trust in his or her master and at that point, may not need to use a safe word at all. This is up for debate in the BDSM community. Care should be taken in any BDSM scenario depending on what tool is being used in a scene. Having some kind of training in first aid could prove useful just in case. There is a chance of getting an STD or blood borne disease through play even if sexual contact isn’t happening, so care should be taken to keep toys clean. Not being under the influence of alcohol or drugs is important as well to keep the bottom from feeling pain that could be severely destructive and so that a top will keep composure. The subject should be easily releasable from any position at all times. Eating before a scenario is important, it can keep the submissive from fainting. A person should never be left alone for a long period of time if restrained.

Safe, sane, and consensual~ Attempts should be made not to risk a person’s health in any way. Any type of play should be done with a sane and clear mind. Both parties should give full consent before anything can take place.
Risk-aware consensual kink~ Thought is given to risk involved. Awareness is made of the activities and risks involved. Agreement is made to carry the actions out. Alternative sex is involved. This is pretty much the same as SSC, but taking into consideration edge play.

[edit] Terms

Bondage~ restraint by use of a tool such as hand cuffs, rope, etc.
Discipline~ a power exchange where a person is punished by an “authoritative” figure, a dominant
Dominance and Submission~ A power play where one person is in the control and the other is controlled and this brings a sense of gratification
Sadism~ Enjoyment from giving pain to another person
Masochism~ Enjoyment from receiving pain from another person
Top~ person who performs the acts of dominance/bondage
Bottom~ Person who receives the acts of dominance/bondage
Switch~ a person who enjoys giving and receiving acts of dominance/bondage
Scene~ A time set aside and agreed upon to be used for the sole purpose of a BDSM session.

[edit] Toys

Whip~ Long, stick-like device, usually a little bit flexible, with a small bit of leather or cord at the end called a “popper”.
Flogger~ A multi-tongue whipping instrument, can be made of rubber, leather, soft cord, etc.
Paddle~ Usually a wooden instrument with a long, flat face and a narrow neck, used specifically for spankings, as it is too hard to be used on the back.
Spanking~ When spanking is used for sexual gratification for one or both partners.
Caning~ Beating with a stick or a similar implement.
Breast bondage~ Rope tied around the base of each breast, causing the breasts to bulge outward. Acts in the same way as a bra.
Sensory deprivation~ Use of blindfolds, earmuffs, or hoods to limit the senses in an exciting way.
Movement restriction~ Physically restraining a person by use of: hand cuffs, shackles, straightjackets, ropes, straps, ball locks, ball gags, etc.
Suspension bondage~ A person being hung from one or more suspension points
Sensation play~ Feathers, silk, leather, tickling, biting, clawing, clothespins, forceps, nipple clamps, fur, ice, TENS devices, etc.
Medical submission~ A person who is aroused by medical paraphernalia such as: catheterizations, enemas, injections, suppositories, menstrual cups, rectal examination, gynecological examination, rectal temperature taking, dental fetishes such as head gear, braces, or a retainer.
Human toilet~ Act of defecating and/or urinating on a submissive.
Collar~ Placed around the neck of a submissive to show ownership to a dominant.